man, fuck others for being so judgmental.
i shoudn’t say that, because i myself am extremely judgmental.
what does it even mean to be judgmental?
sometimes when i see someone doing something that i wouldn’t normally do, i give them this look that says, “what the fuck are you doing?”
then, if they’re vocal enough to say something, they might aggressively say, “the fuck are you looking at?” or, flat-out, “stop looking at me so judgmentally!”
i’ve definitely heard the latter before in my life…specifically addressed to me. i think it’s weird that people care about being judged.
but again, i won’t act like i don’t care about being judged. take haters, for example. the ideal attitude regarding them goes something like, “MAN, FUCK DA HATERS! I DON’T PAY ‘EM NO MIND! SHIT GOES IN ONE EAR AND OUT THE OTHER! I AIN’T NEVER LET A HATER FAZE ME!! I’M JUST GONNA KEEP DOIN’ ME, GIVE A FUCK ABOUT Y’ALL!”
now, i’m not going to try to challenge that by saying it’s wrong, but i WILL challenge it by saying that it’s hard to do! when haters hate, sometimes the shit they say seems like it’s hitting RIGHT on your deepest insecurities, your most vulnerable openings of self-doubt.
from a rational standpoint, i am a perfectionist. i believe in constant self-improvement.
haters: recognize that they’re out there, but don’t ever let them bring you down. yes, everything can stand to be improved—but would i rather improve it in someone else’s way, or in my own way? the latter!
so what, other people’s opinions aren’t valid? i mean, of course they are. but other people’s opinions are only valid to them. what opinions should i listen to? the ones that i believe are true. which opinions should i even CONSIDER listening to? the ones that aim to be CONstructive, not DEstructive. constructive criticism is the criticism that comes from a good place. it’s easiest to see what i’m talking about by looking at an example of the opposite: constructive criticism coming from a bad place is like Lindsday Lohan’s character in Mean Girls, when Cady (Kady? i don’t fucking remember these bullshit minor details) offers to help Regina George lose three pounds by giving her the weight-GAINING food bars…
*acting like you’re trying to help someone when in reality you are actually trying to hurt them.
who the hell actually does this?! manipulative, dishonest, deceitful, power-hungry, conniving cunts. “yeah, but what if a dude does it?” he’s still a cunt. anyone who does that kind of shit is a cunt.
i’ll be back later to explain the difference between a cunt, asshole, douchebag, and dick.